Knowing if someone is lying to you can be challenging. On most occasions, when you doubt the honesty of another, there are thousands of thoughts that cross your mind. You go from believing him to being suspicious of everything he tells you and you can’t decide if you are the one who misjudges the situation or he is actually a liar.
Winsomenews helps you find out. Pay close attention to these ten factors that reveal even the most experienced and cunning of liars.
1. Agreement. When someone says something that did not happen, that he does not think or feel, his body attitude does not match his words. His body does not lie, it expresses what he really wants to say, while his words are measured and unnatural. If you distrust what someone says to you, pay more attention to what their eyes or the gestures of their mouth say than to their words.
2. Front position. When an individual tries to establish frank and direct communication with you, he places his body in front of yours. We do this automatically, seeking to establish the best possible contact with the other. But if it is a liar who seeks to talk to you, it is possible that he without even realizing it tries not to be 100% in front of you. This indicates that his body feels protected at a less direct angle. You can also take advantage of this position to avoid direct eye contact.
3. Stiffness. Telling lies is something that stresses even the most experienced. If you are suspicious of his words, look for signs of stress or body stiffness. These can be revealed even in the smile or the look, which will seem too fake.
4. Take a good look at me. This is one of the best known signs when it comes to detecting a liar, and it is also one of the most accurate. Much of the communication is established from the look, this can reveal a lot about a person and their intentions. If someone is unable to hold a steady gaze, they may be telling lies. Another unmistakable sign of the dishonest is rapidly moving the pupils in all directions, or keeping them fixed at a distant point. These behaviors can also be attributed to shyness or distrust, but if they appear in someone with whom you interact frequently and you have never seen them before in him, it is possible that he is hiding something from you.
5. Let’s change the subject. A liar feels vulnerable and uncomfortable when he is lying. Even if he’s good at it or has an unflappable look, inside all of his alarms are on. He will surely seek to quickly change the subject and move on to another conversation that makes him feel less exposed. Do not let him out, insist on the issue they are dealing with.
6. Question of verisimilitude. All lies have their weak points. No matter how well prepared they are, they are not true stories and therefore at some point the detail will appear that reveals their unreal nature. Investigate, ask, make him repeat the facts, be a good detective and the clues will come to you.
7. The neck, ears and hands. These are the parts of the body that a liar will repeatedly touch if he is nervous or feels that he will soon be caught. His body reacts trying to distract your attention, he wants you to focus on his movements and stop paying attention to him. If he does this it is because he feels that he is losing the battle. Maybe this is a good time to confront him.
8. Defensive attitude. When the liar feels that he has no more escape, he fights back. If he were telling you about something that actually happened, he wouldn’t bother to repeat the story or give you all the details you ask for. But if, on the other hand, he knows that his story has gaps and sooner or later some inconsistency will come to light, the best way to prevent you from advancing will be by defending yourself. If he answers your questions with questions like “why do you want to know that?” or he tells you “that is not important now”, surely he is reaching his limit and uses defense as an attack.
9. Tone and speed. When someone lies he tends to alter the tone and rhythm with which he normally speaks. In most cases the voice may be higher and the rhythm faster. It is possible that in addition to speaking very fast, he may not vocalize well, skip letters or even words. He does this because he does not feel sure what he is saying and wants to finish his speech soon. Slow him down a bit, ask him to repeat if you don’t understand …
10. Cutting edge technology. Today it is much easier to tell lies on a screen or on the phone. If your suspect always wants to chat rather than talk and prefers to discuss an important topic over the phone, he may be taking refuge in technology to keep from standing up to you. Think about it: through the screen you cannot access all the clues to his body language that would easily expose him. Also, when he writes, he will have more time to plan his responses and solidify his alibi, while he may personally hesitate.